Guest Speakers: Hannah Massarella and Nicola Arnold
Our monthly drinks and networking event this month revolved around the theme of resilience. Our guest speakers Hannah Massarella and Nicola Arnold presented us with an interactive session focusing primarily on self-care strategies which aim to aid resilience building. It was clear to see that learning and implementing these strategies was going to add to our self-care routines, which in turn make us more resilient.
These 4 key aspects which were covered were:
- How to be with difficult emotions
- How to recognise and ‘tame’ self sabotaging thoughts
- How to establish and connect to your personal core values and purpose
- How to acknowledge and celebrate your core strengths and skills
Dealing with difficult emotions
Difficult emotions are things we have to deal with on a regular basis, however sometimes they get the better of us. Situations like this require resilience however sometimes it just seems easier for us to build a metaphorical armour and just close up. This seems like the easy option in the short run, however eventually this kind of attitude will shut you off from life. Armouring up to deal with challenges turns into an obstacle for us when it comes to challenging ourselves and making new connections.
This issue was one of the first to be addressed in the session and led to a very collaborative exercise which consisted of people in the audience talking about situations which were similar. The first step to becoming more resilient was to pay attention to exactly how we felt and what kind of emotions we experienced.
Recognising and ‘taming’ self-sabotaging thoughts
Hannah described self-sabotaging thoughts as ‘gremlins’. These thoughts can take the form of fear, worries or concerns, all which are things that come naturally to us. However theres no doubt that sometimes, these can get so bad that they eat us up and make us experience uncomfortable situations.
On the other hand, there is something to learn from them, often that learning is how to become even more resilient in the face of them. The next two strategies which were covered in the session act as efficient ways to overcome self-sabotage as well make us more resilient.
Establishing our personal core values and purpose
Values bring energy and direction; they’re at the heart of what makes an individual tick. When people deeply understand their values, they can create a way of operating in the world that leads them to a true sense of purpose and meaning. As part of the session, we were again encouraged to communicate our personal core values to others in order to raise more self-awareness.
Determining what our core values are really makes it easier for us to understand what we really care about and why some things seem to frustrate or challenge us more than others.
Acknowledging and celebrating our core strengths and skills
The last aspect which shows undoubtable benefits when it comes to boosting resilience is the idea of acknowledging and celebrating our strengths and skills. Some might find it awkward and uncomfortable to really admit to themselves what their true strengths are and what they really admire about themselves, however, even a small bit of self-acknowledgement can go a long way and make a significant difference to how we approach things!
Towards the end of the session, we created a video compilation of individuals acknowledging their core strengths ‘i am’ style! Check out our video here!
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